Emotional abuse can feel as destructive and damaging as physical abuse, and can severely impact your mental health. It’s often used as a way to maintain power and control over someone. Show
Emotional abuse may be accompanied by other kinds of abuse: sexual, financial or physical. However, it doesn’t need to include other kinds of abuse to count as abuse; it’s serious enough on its own to be a concern. Sometimes it might feel hard to define what emotional abuse is. The points below can help you to understand what emotional abuse looks like, how it affects you and what signs to look out for if you're worried about someone else. Types of emotional abuseEmotional abuse can involve any of the following:
Symptoms of emotional abusePhysical violence is often seen as being more serious than emotional abuse, but this simply isn’t true. The scars of emotional abuse are real and long-lasting. Emotional abuse can have a range of impacts both mentally and physically, including:
Signs someone else is experiencing emotional abuseYou may be worried that a friend or someone in your family is experiencing emotional abuse. As emotional abuse often happens in private, it can be difficult to see if it's happening for someone else. If you suspect someone you know is in an emotionally abusive relationship, some key things to look out for might include:
Getting supportIf you’re experiencing emotional abuse, it’s important that you seek help. There are a number of services you can contact if you need someone to talk to. Check out Domestic violence and what you can do about it for information on things to consider when dealing with domestic violence, including where to go to make sure you’re safe, and the kinds of support you can access: legal, financial and medical. Most importantly, if you feel afraid or believe you might be in danger, contact the emergency services (000) immediately. Want to chat with a peer worker who can listen to you and support you? Book a free, text-based session with ReachOut PeerChat. You can also use ReachOut NextStep, an anonymous online tool that will recommend relevant support options for you. The effects of physical abuse are obvious – a black eye, a cut or a bruise – but the effects of emotional abuse may be harder to spot. Emotionally abusive husbands or wives can affect mood, sex drive, work, school and other areas of life. Make no mistake about it; the effects of emotional abuse can be just as severe as those from physical abuse. And perhaps even worse is the fact that victims of emotional abuse tend to blame themselves and minimize their abuse, saying that it was "only" emotional and "at least he/she didn't hit me." But minimizing adult emotional abuse won't help and it won't hide its devastating effects. Short-Term Effects of Emotional AbuseShort-term effects of an emotionally abusive husband or wife often have to do with the surprise of being in the situation or the questioning of just how the situation arose. Some emotional abusers don't begin their abuse until well into a relationship. Husbands or wives may find themselves shocked to see the new, emotionally abusive behavior. The behavior and thoughts of the victim then change in response to the emotional abuse. Short-term effects of emotional abuse include:1
A partner may also find themselves trying to do anything possible to bring the relationship back to the way it was before the abuse. Long-Term Effects of Emotional AbuseIn long-term emotionally abusive situations, the victim has such low self-esteem that they often feel they cannot leave their abuser and that they are not worthy of a non-abusive relationship. Adult emotional abuse leads to the victim believing the terrible things that the abuser says about him/her. Emotional abuse victims often think they're "going crazy."2 Effects of long-term emotional abuse by significant others, boyfriends or girlfriends include:
Stockholm Syndrome is also common in long-term abuse situations. In Stockholm Syndrome, the victim is so terrified of the abuser that the victim overly identifies and becomes bonded with the abuser in an attempt to stop the abuse. The victim will even defend their abuser and their emotionally abusive actions. What are the effects of emotional abuse?Emotional abuse of child or young person can increase the risk of:. mental health problems, including depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts.. eating disorders.. self-harm.. language development.. problems forming healthy relationships.. What are the 5 signs of emotional abuse?5 Signs of Emotional Abuse. They are Hyper-Critical or Judgmental Towards You. ... . They Ignore Boundaries or Invade Your Privacy. ... . They are Possessive and/or Controlling. ... . They are Manipulative. ... . They Often Dismiss You and Your Feelings.. What it feels like to be a victim of emotional abuse?Victims of emotional abuse often feel like they can't do anything right, and that they are not good enough for their partner or even for anyone else. This can lead to a feeling of hopelessness and despair. If you are in a relationship with someone who is withholding love and support from you, please seek help.
What happens to the brain after emotional abuse?Emotional abuse is linked to thinning of certain areas of the brain that help you manage emotions and be self-aware — especially the prefrontal cortex and temporal lobe. Epigenetic changes and depression. Research from 2018 has connected childhood abuse to epigenetic brain changes that may cause depression.
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