Is falling in love with your best friend bad

By Malak Hisham

Falling for your bestfriend is almost inevitable; it’s bound to happen sooner or later. Someone ultimately starts having feelings for the other. Many people have been through a similar story; they always freak out when they realize how deep in it they are. No matter how much they try, they simply cannot move on. That’s all perfectly fine; most of us have been there at least once. 

Falling for your bestfriend is a risky business; I mean tons of things can actually go wrong. The feeling may be mutual, but both of you are too scared to actually make a move fearing it will ruin your great friendship. If the feeling is mutual and you actually decide to take things to the next level, what if you break-up? Will you guys still be friends like you used to be? Let’s come to the worst case scenario that we’re all too familiar with: the feeling is not reciprocated. This is literally the worst thing that can happen, and even worse if they have feelings for someone else. Of course, you being their best friend, have to listen to all the details about their new relationship.

When it comes to falling for your bestfriend, being in denial is probably the worst thing you can do. It ranges from: “no”, to “Ew, what the hell, of course not!”, “He’s like my brother”, to “It’s  friendship jealousy.” You basically sing this last one to yourself from the second you wake up till you sleep in an attempt to deny the green-eyed monster growing inside you, aka jealousy.

Seriously? Friendship jealousy? Does that even exist?

The sooner you accept it the better, because trust us, if you deny it, you’ll fall so deep and won’t be able to backtrack as easily. If you “Like” the guy, it’ll be easier to backtrack and move on than if you actually fell in love. If you deny it, one day believe us we know, you’ll wake up feeling like a bucket of cold water was dumped over your head and the first thought that will go through your head is “Holy shit, I love him”. You’ll feel lost and won’t know what to do, but it’s okay. It’s all understandable; you’ll find your way through it. Just please try to skip that denial phase and it will be so much easier; we know we hoped that we did!

Falling in love with your bestfriend is much better than falling in love with just anyone. Let’s face it; your bestfriend will never ever hurt you intentionally. If you guys are extremely close, you can even tell him, despite that he may not feel the same way. It will feel exceedingly weird if you keep it from him, and you might even catch yourself trying to distance yourself in the hopes that he doesn’t find out so on the long run you might even lose him. However, that depends of what kind of a person he is; if you know for a fact that he’ll ditch you if you tell him then don’t.

Some guy bestfriends can actually be there for you, which is extremely cute and sweet of them, but it will actually make you love them even more. Don’t turn cold or shut yourself out, or pretend that everything is perfectly fine. Allow yourself to feel the pain; pretend that you’re okay and lying to yourself and everyone else around you is no use. You can run all you want from the pain, but pain will always run faster. When this “pain” that you were extremely afraid to feel catches up with you, it would have built up a hundred times more.

We won’t tell you that you won’t go through sleepless nights, a pillow drenched with tears, heartache, hours of eating whatever comfort food you have ( ours is ice cream!) and watching 7 movies in a row or the entire 9 seasons of One Tree Hill in one day. All of this will happen, but in all honesty, when you see the person you love, when you see them smile or laugh, or just hear their voice on the phone, or when your phone notifies you that you got a text and their name lights up the screen, or when they tease you and try to make you laugh, when they are being the bestfriends that you could ever wish for, it will all be worth it. In any relationship, there is pain and tears, but there’s also laughter and happiness. However, when you fall for your best friend the “happy” part will be even bigger.

The risk will be worth it. If the guy is blind and and doesn’t feel the same way, then honey you deserve much better. You should find someone who loves you and thinks that walking till the ends of the earth for you is a walk to the park for him. Don’t lose the guy though, boyfriends come and go, but a guy bestfriend is here to stay. Our final advice; talk about it with anyone and just let it all out. Take it from us; it really helps.

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