The husband hesitated on going to his wife's family for Christmas Day. Show
 December 22, 2021 - 12:49PM More from news Brisbane mum diagnosed with cancer on day she gave birth sadly dies'It's important for the public to put themselves in the shoes of responders'Medicare counselling sessions halved to 10The husband hesitated on going to his wife's family for Christmas Day, despite the fact her mum just died. For the entire time *Deena and *Terry have been together, Christmas has always been celebrated in exactly the same way. The weekend before, the couple travel to the town where both their families live. They always stay with Terry’s parents for the duration of the holiday season, as they have the bigger house. They also spend Christmas Day with them before driving across town to Deena’s parents place for a second celebratory meal on Boxing Day. Surprisingly, this arrangement has never bothered the 31-year-old woman before. As she wrote on Reddit, Deena said that she hasn’t cared about where she and Terry spend Christmas Day as she just wants them “to be together”. “However, last month, my mother died unexpectedly - so I want to spend Christmas with my father and sister this year,” she explained. Want to join the family? Sign up to our for more stories like this Christmas Day: Husband hesitates on wife's family lunch despite mum's deathDeena assumed her husband would be happy to spend Christmas with her family after her mum died. Source: iStock "I just want to spend Christmas Day with my family"Due to the special circumstances, Deena, who is also eight months pregnant, wants to spend both Christmas and Boxing Day with her family – and she thought that Terry would be happy to join her. So she was extremely surprised and disappointed when he told her that he needed time to think about and discuss with his family about how to split the days. “For me, the fact that he even needs time to process this and wants to consult his family is already a decision,” Deena said. “So I told him to spend Christmas with his family and I will spend the days with mine. “I don’t want him to join our ‘party’ if he might rather be somewhere else because it will definitely not be joyous this year... “He thinks it’s unfair that I don’t want to give him time to think. Am I being unreasonable?” RELATED: ‘My mother-in-law ruined my marriage on Christmas Day’ RELATED: ‘The Christmas lunch that exposed my husband’s filthy secret’ Reddit commenters weigh in on Christmas Day dilemmaReddit users were divided in response to Deena’s question – unable to come to a consensus on whether she had taken things too far. Some people were convinced that she had done the right thing and slammed Terry for not immediately stepping up to be by his wife’s side. “If your husband of 10 years can't prioritise his wife at a critical time like this, then IMO he doesn't sound like much of a partner. FFS you're eight months pregnant and your mother just died!” one person incredulously said. “The first Christmas after a significant loss is very important, and those in the immediate circle of loss get to call the shots in these moments. His family has taken priority on Christmas for their whole relationship,” a second commenter agreed. But others thought that Deena had acted too hastily – criticising her for not giving Terry “a moment to even think about it.” “The man wants to see his family at Christmas, stop demonising him for it,” someone else abruptly stated. Wife responds to Christmas Day criticismIn response, Deena updated her post to thank people for sharing their opinions about the situation. She also wanted to clarify that they would be seeing Terry’s family on the mornings of Christmas Day and Boxing Day as they are still staying there. The afternoon and evening are the times that are still up for debate – with Terry still unclear where he will be spending the holiday. “If he wants to come, I will not uninvite him again but if not, we will have the first day separated and the second day with my family and it will be fine,” Deena said. “I apologised to him for the way I communicated because I came off unexpectedly harsh since he hadn’t really thought about the topic yet. We haven’t found the final solution yet.” *Names have been changed If you have any stories that you would like to share with us, please email [email protected] Who comes first my husband or my family?Your partner must be your first priority now and it's critical that your parents "support the sanctity and priority of your marriage," he adds. Of course, it may sometimes still be difficult to pick your partner over your parents.
Who comes first husband or mother?The answer is your spouse – that's your first obligation. When you get married, you leave your parents. It doesn't mean you don't talk to them anymore (unless they're horrible), but you have to cater to the new dynamic. You're going to have a much stronger marriage if you become a loyal husband or wife.
What does it mean when your husband doesn't want to spend time with you?Sometimes, people let the pressure from work, family, finances, and life, in general, get to them. If your husband is under such pressure, that may be the reason he doesn't want to spend any alone time with you. Some people process things that way. They would rather think things out alone than talk it out with anyone.
Do couples spend Christmas together?The majority (82%) of surveyed couples want to split the holidays between families, while 12% believe they should choose one family to spend their time, and 6% play Scrooge and opt to avoid both.
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