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Firstly, don’t be fooled by the flashy title. I’m not encouraging women to play dumb, be stuck in a ‘housewife’ role, or have no opinions. Being submissive to a man is not about that at all. I’m also not encouraging women to be submissive all the time. Being submissive is just another role that a woman can take up every now and then in her relationship with a high value, masculine man. But why be more submissive in a relationship? What good can it bring you? Being submissive can bring more passion, strength and life to a healthy relationship. That’s IF your submissiveness is received by a man with love and respect. The key point here is that you need to do this inside a healthy relationship. If you want to know if your relationship is healthy, here are 10 Ultimate Signs of A Healthy Relationship. Being submissive is NOT something that you do with an abusive man. Table of Contents
Being submissive in A Relationship Is Just Another Part Of You…Another part of you that you might want to bring out sometimes. Being submissive – whether in a joking or serious way can awaken the most masculine yet tender character in a man. Being a submissive woman is almost never about admitting you’re “wrong” or less worthy than a man. Being submissive just allows for a man to feel more like a man around you, and as a result, have that extra feeling of passion for you. You may have already suspected that being submissive is an integral part of showing your feminine energy. Well, part of being in touch with your feminine energy is engaging and feeling all the different parts of yourself as a woman. This is about accepting that there are many different parts of you because at the end of the day, you are not just one kind of woman! Are you? When you know that you’re not, you actually free yourself up to become more of yourself and who you really are. And in the process, you bring more value into your relationship. Also, once you accept that you don’t have to be just one type of woman all the time, you start to explore a little deeper within yourself. Submission is a part of learning to become more feminine too. So, the question of how to be submissive leads me to address some of the “why” behind being a submissive girlfriend or wife. The ‘how’ will come to you through understanding of the reason behind it. Being In Control All The Time Doesn’t Help Your Relationship With A ManOur society has encouraged women to keep their guard up and wear masks (instead of being comfortable in their feminine core/essence). Many of us naturally feminine women have gotten the message that we need to hide it away. Instead of being feminine, we often choose to ‘be in control’. At the very least, we prefer to give the impression that we are in control. This need to be in control is one of the biggest things that not only repels men, but makes it harder for women to find a good boyfriend and keep him! Also it’s important to remember that going to school from a young age teaches us that being ‘right’ is high on the list of importance. We as women now have to be right, be smart and be intelligent too. Nothing wrong with all of that. I personally went to college (it’s called university here in Australia), and I got myself a law degree and an arts degree. However, I quickly realised that it did not help me in my relationship whatsoever! Many women have also learned that they need to be like steel in the face of conflict. It will also kill your ability to develop a deep emotional attraction with a man that inspires him to want to be your man and commit to taking care of you for life! By the way, did you know that there’s one specific emotional trigger within every man in this world that inspires him to WANT to take care of you and worship you forever? CLICK HERE to LEARN the One Specific Emotional Trigger Within Every Masculine Man That Inspires Him to Want to Take Care of You, Worship You and Deeply Commit to You. Being Submissive In A Relationship Makes It Erotic And PassionateI’ve mentioned it before and I’ll mention it again. A man really wants his woman to be open to him, and to let him in (emotionally, mentally, sexually, spiritually). This is because it’s erotic for a man to feel the feeling of a woman gradually opening and trusting in him and his direction. Of course, when we open, surrender to and trust a man’s masculine direction in the bedroom, that allows a him to feel our feminine energy. He also gets to feel more of a man in the process of feeling your submissiveness and dominating you (hopefully from a place of love). Modern Society & Turns Women Into Dominating CreaturesThe problem with modern society and the way we’re educated (or not educated) at school, is that it’s turned a lot of women in to these intensely dominating creatures that completely emasculate the men around them. This problem of trying to dominate usually shows up when you face conflict inside of a relationship. And there always IS conflict and always will be in a relationship with a man, it’s natural and good. Yet in the face of conflict, many women use these steel masks to cover up the natural parts of themselves that would come out – the vulnerable parts that could potentially create moments of connectedness with a man. When women speak amongst each other, of course they would agree with the value of not having a man control them or dominate them. Because women’s empowerment, right?
But there’s one problem. Let’s talk more about that. Women Can Feel The MOST Vulnerable.Women, in many ways, are the most vulnerable. As a result, they have to use masks more than anything, to survive in a world that doesn’t always honour sensitivity. Our world doesn’t always allow us the luxury of being sensitive to how people are treating us, how others feel and how we feel. Our society seems to value being socially acceptable instead. There’s nothing wrong with that… Until we’ve practised it so long that we bring the same need to be ‘acceptable’ and fake in our intimate relationships. In the face of conflict or just in moments of intimacy, a woman can decide to open up to her man and remove the mask. You get that decision making power as a woman. You can choose who to give your submissiveness and feminine surrender to. Decisions shape your future, and it’s as simple as making a decision, and focusing on the positives of offering your submissiveness rather than the comfort of doing things the same way you always have. By the way, would you like to find out exactly how naturally feminine you are? You can do that with our quick and easy quiz: QUIZ TIME: Are you truly living in your feminine energy? CLICK HERE to find out with my specially crafted 9 Question Quiz! Allow A Man Space To Give You His Masculine DirectionWhat is this masculine direction thing? Why should women surrender to a man’s “direction”, much less trust a man’s direction? After all, don’t we all have our own direction? Absolutely we do! But as a woman who is feminine at her core, I can tell you that after spending 17+ years with a masculine man whose direction has served me at the highest level, his direction has made my life infinite. As much as I wanted to resist him at first, as all women do, because it’s very hard to just trust a man and risk losing your own direction in the process, the rewards are truly infinite if you’re with a trustworthy man. Here’s the bottom line: I know how explosive that statement was, so let me explain. I am not saying all men are confident and worthy of trusting. Far from it. I am saying that the masculine men of the world who are not average, who live life on their own terms and are willing to take great responsibility of all areas of their life, are surely worthy of offering your trust. Many women have better masculine direction than men these days, and that’s because western men have become weaker over time.
Not to mention, your ability to perceive truth will not compare to a man’s ability if he is already confident and following his own direction. Just like his ability to birth a baby will not compare to yours, his masculine body and biology is more suited to certain tasks in this life, and you offering your submissiveness only allows him to flourish in these areas. The best thing about learning to surrender to a man’s masculine direction is that it gives him a safe place to be the dark masculine parts of him! So, let him in and try to let him take the lead – try to trust him even when it feels unfamiliar to trust. If you’re afraid, just say something like:
(Sorry in advance if you feel like I’m making a bunch of generalisations – but for the purpose of this post, they are useful). The truth is, in general, men are built naturally physically stronger than women. And, they operate differently to women mentally too (think about a woman’s handbag, and how she magically fits in the contents of an entire HOUSE in it; versus a man who only carries a wallet with a few cards and some money). Deep down, all women have vulnerabilities. All women have deep fears and feelings of uncertainty, especially in the situations where there is challenge or violence. We simply don’t thrive on challenge like masculine men do. So allow yourself to trust his direction more with certain things. Spend some time letting go, allowing yourself to feel into the strength he can offer you in certain situations. You may not be able to surrender and allow him to take the reigns in all areas yet, and that’s ok. Baby steps. A trustable man wants you to show him your vulnerabilities! But how can you do this? It’s a simple word of ‘I am afraid’ or ‘this scares me.’ SPECIAL REPORT: How to Become the World’s Most Attractive & Feminine Goddess (Even if you have no self esteem or no man has ever paid you any attention…) CLICK HERE to download it at no cost.
How Does Submitting Benefit A Woman? Why Would You Want To “Submit” To A Man?A lady asked this great question in my facebook group:
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